It’s a gift to those who will survive you that you're thinking through this now. Perhaps the easiest option is for you and your wife to have your plaques list both spouses.
Now, some might quibble that you can't be in two places so why would your name be? This has precedent, though. For instance, the graves of some veterans buried at Arlington National Cemetery list spouses who are buried elsewhere.
A headstone is a monument that gives family a place to visit and, often, aids historical researchers. Memorializing both of your marriages in this way honors the lives you lived and the people you loved.
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