In this letter, a father expresses his frustration about his ex-wife preventing him from spending time with their adult children during their visit home. He feels alienated due to her controlling nature, especially since he has a claim for owed money. Dear Abby advises him to directly communicate with his children instead of relying on his ex-wife for permission. She emphasizes that the children are adults and he should take initiative to strengthen his relationships with them, despite the tension with his ex-wife.
"Your children are not 'kids.' They are adults now. If you want to see them while they are in town, you don't need to ask your ex-wife."
"It's clear you are not friendly with your ex, but don't let that stop you. Reach out to your children directly and ask what they would like to do."
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