I have no idea what you should do, but I might be able to help you think through your options. I'm morally against continuing to see your domme behind your wife's back, but it's your choice to make.
Consider how your wife is likely to react to the news that you've been seeing someone to get your kinks catered to. Think about whether it might be a dealbreaker for your relationship. Are you willing to stop seeing this domme if your wife requires it? Ultimately, you have to weigh what's more important to you: exercising your submissive side or maintaining your marriage.
I (18 female-to-male) am wondering if it is a bad thing to sort of keep my identity more personal and intimate to myself?
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