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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours agoPsychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
23 hours agoPsychology says adults who have no close friends aren't necessarily antisocial or unlikable. Many of them learned in childhood that being vulnerable leads to pain, and they grew up assuming that keeping people at a distance is safer - Silicon Canals
Many people appear self-sufficient but struggle with deep-seated fears of vulnerability due to early attachment experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoNeuroscience reveals that the calmest person in any crisis isn't naturally fearless - their brain learned to delay panic because their childhood required them to be functional before they were allowed to be afraid - Silicon Canals
Calmness under pressure is a learned response, not merely a personality trait or temperament.
Relationships
fromIndependent
2 days agoAsking for a friend: I can't keep an erection during sex and sometimes can't get hard at all. I'm not depressed or on medication, but I do watch a lot of porn
Erectile issues do not define masculinity; men are whole humans with real anxieties beyond physical performance.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
#emotional-intelligence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a generation of men who became their mother's therapist before they turned twelve, and they grew into adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea how to sit in one without scanning for danger - Silicon Canals
Boys often learn emotional intelligence as a defense mechanism due to emotional parentification, impacting their adult relationships and emotional health.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPeople who are extremely good at reading a room often have no idea how to simply be in one. The scanning never stops. The social radar that everyone admires is the same system that prevents them from ever fully arriving anywhere, because arriving would require turning it off. - Silicon Canals
Emotional intelligence often acts as a surveillance system that hinders genuine connection rather than enhancing it.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPeople who rehearse conversations in their head before making a phone call aren't anxious in the way most people assume. They learned early that spontaneous speech was dangerous because the wrong word at the wrong time could change the temperature of an entire household, and now every unscripted interaction feels like walking into a room without checking the exits first. - Silicon Canals
Rehearsing conversations is a learned response to emotional unpredictability in childhood, not merely a sign of social anxiety or introversion.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoNot everyone who keeps a small social circle is protecting their energy. Some of them built a wide one once, watched it reveal exactly how many people would show up during an actual emergency, and quietly restructured around the answer - Silicon Canals
Small social circles often result from past crises that reveal true friendships, rather than a preference for fewer connections.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the adults who seem the most indifferent aren't cynics - they've simply been disappointed so many times that their nervous system reclassified hope as a threat - Silicon Canals
Indifference may stem from a nervous system response to past trauma, where hope becomes associated with pain and disappointment.
#loneliness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThere's a specific kind of social performance I've perfected over twenty years of having no close friends. I can walk into any room, be warm and engaged for three hours, drive home in complete silence, and feel more alone than I did before I arrived - Silicon Canals
Social performance can mask deep loneliness, as individuals may connect outwardly but feel isolated internally.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals
Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThere's a specific kind of social performance I've perfected over twenty years of having no close friends. I can walk into any room, be warm and engaged for three hours, drive home in complete silence, and feel more alone than I did before I arrived - Silicon Canals
Social performance can mask deep loneliness, as individuals may connect outwardly but feel isolated internally.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals
Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoThe Deception of Depression
Depression is insidious. For people suffering from depression, joy is elusive. Depression is not only a general feeling of sadness or being down and out. It is a serious condition and needs attention. People suffering from depression cannot just get over it and move on. They need support, healing, and to discover the epicenter of their pain.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoDiagnosing mental health conditions need not be a case of yes/no | Letters
If we treat ADHD as binary (you have it or you do not), we are missing the possibility that we all lie somewhere on a continuum with diagnosed ADHD towards one end (and perhaps an ability to focus and concentrate at the other). A diagnosis of ADHD then depends on where the line is drawn. I suggest that this line has been moved in recent years, so that a large group of people have been caught up in the positive ADHD group, who would not have been previously.
Mental health
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoWhat I see in clinic is never a set of labels': are we in danger of overdiagnosing mental illness?
Ancient texts describe mental suffering resembling modern disorders, showing such conditions are timeless while psychiatric labels and diagnostic boundaries continue to change.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoDealing with the Fear of Looking Dumb
In some cases, fear of looking dumb is a symptom of social anxiety disorder (APA, 2022), and it can be associated with perfectionism and fear of failure. It can show up in issues such as imposter syndrome, or feeling like a fraud and worrying about not rising to the expectations of a high-achieving position. It can also be related to stereotype threat, when someone's membership in a marginalized group leads them to worry that they will act in a way that confirms negative stereotypes.
Mental health
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoThe rise of rejection sensitive dysphoria: My chest feels like it's collapsing'
Shame from past teasing and perceived criticism can trigger severe anxiety, panic attacks, and obsessive behaviors that persist for decades and significantly impact daily functioning.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoAvoidance Is Not Always About Triggers
Many people going through grief, infertility, loss, or prolonged stress find themselves quietly withdrawing from family gatherings, holidays, baby showers, weddings, and even casual get-togethers. Often, this is explained in terms of not wanting to get triggered. That explanation is valid. Triggers are real, and the emotional pain can be sharp, sudden, and last for hours. Framed this way, stepping back can feel like a very good form of self-care.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoThe Depression Clinicians Don't Talk About
They arrive on time, think clearly, and care about their clients. Outwardly, everything seems fine. In private, though, things can feel very different. A clinician's depression may not show up as clear despair. More often, it feels like emotional numbness, quietly withdrawing, or slowly losing interest in things that once mattered. Pleasure fades, curiosity lessens, and the work goes on, but it feels heavier and less alive.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhen Tragic Stories in the News Trigger Health Anxiety
Tunnel vision happens when your mind zooms in on a single "threat cue" and filters out everything else. In this case, the threat cue might be: "He was young." "It was cancer." "It seemed sudden." "He probably didn't see it coming." Your mind grabs onto these details and begins building a narrative: "Cancer is everywhere." "People are dying young all the time." "It's inevitable that I'll get something serious." "If I do get sick, there will be nothing I can do."
Mental health
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoWhen it comes to mental health labels, we need to tread lightly | Letters
Social inequality and hardship drive much mental ill-being; cautious, neurodiversity-informed therapeutic approaches and careful use of diagnostic labels can aid mentalisation and prevention.
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