#social-expectations

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Parenting
fromPsychology Today
4 hours ago

A Secret That Some Mothers Will Never Tell

Mothers commonly experience love without liking their children, a stigmatized feeling kept secret due to idealized motherhood expectations that deny natural ambivalence.
Relationships
fromIndependent
11 hours ago

Ask Allison: I'm recently married and I'm an average weight - but I keep getting asked publicly about my size and if I'm pregnant. Help!

Unsolicited comments about weight and pregnancy are inappropriate regardless of someone's body size, and people have the right to establish boundaries against such intrusive remarks.
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

The worst and best thing about growing up in a small town is the same thing - nobody forgets who you were, which means you spend your 20s trying to escape the version of yourself that 600 people cemented when you were 14, and your 40s realizing that version might have been the most honest one - Silicon Canals

When you grow up in a place where everyone's known you since you were in nappies, you carry around hundreds of versions of yourself. Each person you meet has frozen you at a particular moment - the time you threw up at the school dance, your awkward phase when your voice was breaking, that summer you tried to reinvent yourself and failed spectacularly.
Digital life
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Nobody talks about the specific loneliness of being the person who always remembers-who calls on birthdays, sends the card, checks in after the hospital visit-and then realizing in your 60s that you've built an entire social life around being thoughtful and not a single person in it has ever returned the favor without being reminded - Silicon Canals

Being the person who always remembers and initiates contact creates one-sided relationships where reciprocal effort rarely develops, leading to isolation despite decades of connection maintenance.
France news
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks ago

The French are in uproar about gen Z not lunching with colleagues. I'm on Team Solo Dining | Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett

Younger French adults increasingly prefer solitary lunches, challenging traditional workplace dining culture, while British workplaces more readily accept employees' autonomy regarding meal choices.
Miscellaneous
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

7 things men over 60 quietly stopped doing that aren't laziness - they're the first honest decisions they've made in decades - Silicon Canals

Aging men stop certain activities not from laziness but from honest reassessment of what genuinely matters versus obligatory social performance.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Perfectionists Don't Ever Believe You're Trying Your Best

Perfectionists believe others can always do better, while most people believe others are trying their best, creating fundamentally different worldviews about human effort and worth.
East Bay (California)
fromwww.mercurynews.com
2 weeks ago

Miss Manners: Does this mean I can't wear a nice suit to the wedding?

Black tie optional should be interpreted as genuinely optional; hosts cannot definitively expect formal attire without explicit requirements, and guests may attend in less formal black clothing without disrespecting the couple.
Psychology
fromThe New Yorker
2 weeks ago

When Do We Become Adults, Really?

Life stages defined by biology, society, and chronology fail to capture the actual experience of growing up and personal transformation.
#parenting
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
2 months ago

Miss Manners: I'm dismayed by my family's reaction to our small wedding

People expect attendance or gifts at celebrations and may react with entitlement; household choices such as constant, loud political television can make guests uncomfortable.
fromHuffPost
2 months ago

'A Week Of Grocery Money': TikToker Shared The Reason He Skipped A Friend's Birthday Dinner

The plan was to go to dinner, then go to a place that had a cover charge of $35. After looking at the menu, Lans decided to skip the dinner portion of the evening; he said the cheapest entree, a burger, was $41. Fries could be added to the meal for an exorbitant $11. (Lans said he assumed that at a fine dining restaurant, "the burger is just going to be three bites.")
Food & drink
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

You're Not the Only One Who Wants to Crawl Out of Their Skin at Holiday Parties. An Awkwardness Researcher Explains Why.

You have food, you have alcohol, you have questions about what to wear, you have people you don't see very often, or who you see very often but not in this context. There's also a lot of pressure on the holidays in general. We have a lot of expectations that don't always align-like we want it to be a lot of different things, and maybe it can't be all of those things.
Philosophy
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
5 months ago

Asking Eric: I skipped her birthday because of the $10 fee, and she reacted poorly

Friendship should not be severed over inability to attend a birthday due to financial constraints; adults should communicate and show understanding.
Real estate
fromPsychology Today
5 months ago

The Psychology of Retirement

Retirement norms are changing as many baby boomers reject the traditional model, possibly leading to the disappearance or transformation of retirement.
Women
fromThe Atlantic
6 months ago

The Power of Not Caring

Choosing not to care about social expectations frees individuals to prioritize authentic comfort, resist gendered norms, and focus approval on what truly matters.
Miscellaneous
fromBuzzFeed
6 months ago

25 All-Too-Common Toxic Behaviors That People Have Decided They're Too Old To Put Up With

Women experience unsolicited demands to smile from men in various contexts.
NYC politics
fromBroBible
7 months ago

'Welcome To New York': NYC Man Goes On First Date. Then His Date 'Tricks' Him Into Paying $300 Tab

Dating dynamics in NYC can lead to unexpected financial surprises.
Parenting
fromTODAY.com
8 months ago

This 'Gentle Giant' 4-Year-Old Is Already the Size of a 2nd Grader

A 4-year-old named Parker weighs 65 pounds and stands over 45 inches tall, generating both humor and concerns about his size and maturity.
Remote teams
fromBored Panda
9 months ago

Freelancer Shuts Down Entitled Church Member Who Demanded Free Work Because They "Work From Home"

Freelancers working from home often face misconceptions about their availability and workload.
Bootstrapping
fromwww.mercurynews.com
9 months ago

Harriette Cole: It's not that I'm stingy, I just don't have the money to tip

Tipping expectations have increased at many establishments, leading to confusion and frustration for customers who feel pressured by screens prompting tips.
fromTasting Table
9 months ago

Follow This Basic Starbucks Etiquette Tip When Placing Mobile Orders - Tasting Table

Next time you place an order on the Starbucks app, be sure to wait about five minutes before you ask a barista about it, or more if the location is busy.
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