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Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
20 hours ago

My Girlfriend Let Me Do Something That Totally Embarrassed Her. It's Unlocked Something in Me I Didn't Know Existed.

Exploring newfound kinks can enhance intimacy, but communication with partners is essential for healthy relationships.
Social justice
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 hour ago

We aren't scared any more': #MeToo's lessons give Epstein survivors strength to speak out

Survivors of Jeffrey Epstein and Ghislaine Maxwell demand transparency and accountability, marking a significant moment for the #MeToo movement.
Writing
fromBuzzFeed
10 hours ago

My Dad Had A Shameful Compulsion. I Never Thought I'd Grow Up To Share The Same Secret.

A father's struggle with addiction and the impact on his child's perception of him shapes their relationship.
SF LGBT
fromVulture
21 hours ago

Russell Brand Admits to 'Exploitative' Sexual Behavior

Russell Brand admitted to exploitative sexual behavior but claimed it was lawful and consensual, facing multiple charges of sexual assault and rape.
Women in technology
fromFast Company
1 day ago

Over a third of men have blamed a female colleague's behavior on 'hormones'

Women face significant workplace discrimination, including promotion disparities, pay gaps, and unfair health assumptions from male colleagues.
fromPsychology Today
18 hours ago

Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image Inheritance

Studies suggest that when mothers directly encourage their daughters to lose weight, it is linked to the development of bulimic symptoms. In fact, mothers who merely talk about dieting and body dissatisfaction are more likely to be diagnosed with an eating disorder.
Women
Television
fromThe Atlantic
1 day ago

Life Isn't Easy in the OnlyFans Economy

Margo, a naive college student, turns to OnlyFans for financial survival after dropping out and becoming a single mother.
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who use social media but never post about themselves have separated the value of staying informed from the cost of participating in the performance - and that quiet withdrawal isn't disinterest or insecurity, it's one of the most deliberate digital choices a person can make in an era that treats visibility as currency - Silicon Canals

Many social media users prefer to observe rather than participate, valuing privacy and learning over broadcasting their thoughts.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The people who can't accept help without immediately offering something in return aren't generous. They're running an internal ledger that was installed the first time receiving something came with strings, and the ledger has never once gone quiet - Silicon Canals

Reciprocity can mask a debt-avoidance reflex, where individuals feel compelled to repay kindness immediately due to anxiety rather than genuine generosity.
Careers
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

I Know My Company Doesn't Frown Upon Workplace Romance. But One Employee Is Taking It Too Far.

Addressing inappropriate workplace behavior is essential, even if it doesn't violate company policy.
fromwww.npr.org
2 days ago

Want to lighten your mental load? First, let go of these gender myths

Ruppanner emphasizes that acknowledging and measuring the mental load can significantly reduce it. 'Once we see it, we can't unsee it. We can start to address it,' she states.
US news
Wellness
fromInsideHook
1 day ago

Take It From a Woman: Do Not Offer Me a Flat Pillow

Quality pillows enhance comfort and support, reflecting consideration for guests and improving overall sleep quality.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Why "Difficult" Daughters Matter in Families

Porcupine daughters challenge family dynamics by addressing uncomfortable topics and disrupting established patterns.
fromJezebel
1 day ago

German Police Chief Suggests Women Avoid Dating Men If They Want to Stay Safe

Dirk Peglow stated, '[In 2024,] statistically at least two women per day were victims of homicide or attempted homicide, and things look the same with sexual offenses.' He humorously advised, 'Better not get into a relationship with a man. If you do, the risk is much higher of becoming a victim of psychological or physical violence.'
Germany news
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Sexual Assault Survivors Are Not Responsible for Their Own Suffering

The effects of trauma from sexual abuse in adolescence are long-lasting and profoundly alter development.
Public health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Why Some Young Women Are Quitting Birth Control

Social media misinformation about contraception leads to fear and negative expectations, impacting young women's contraceptive choices and health outcomes.
fromThe Atlantic
3 days ago

Why Americans Hate a Cheater

The Pew Research Center found that Americans were notably permissive regarding moral issues like spanking, euthanasia, gambling, and marijuana use, with few behaviors widely condemned.
Philosophy
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a specific kind of resentment that builds in a marriage where one person does the invisible work and the other person benefits from it without ever realizing it exists - and it doesn't show up as anger, it shows up as the slow withdrawal of a woman who got tired of being the operating system for a life that everyone in the house treats like it runs on its own - Silicon Canals

Invisible work in a household often goes unrecognized, leading to imbalance and resentment in relationships.
Medicine
fromwww.bbc.com
4 days ago

'My lonely start to adulthood with endometriosis'

A peer-led support group for women with gynaecological health conditions has been established to combat stigma and loneliness.
Berlin
fromwww.dw.com
1 week ago

What we call sex work and what it says about society

Sex work has been represented and regulated throughout history, reflecting societal attitudes and moral discourses.
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

The Shifting Legal Landscape for Consensual Nonmonogamy

Increased awareness of consensual nonmonogamies leads to both acceptance and discrimination, impacting individuals' social and economic well-being.
Health
fromwww.bbc.com
1 week ago

I've been a sex educator for six years. Why did I start doubting my contraception choices?

Milly Evans and Lauren share experiences of misinformation about hormonal contraception affecting their decisions and perceptions.
Women in technology
fromAdvocate.com
1 day ago

The global assault on women is an assault on all of us

Solidarity against global patriarchy is essential to combat the normalization of sexual violence and protect women's autonomy.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The people who grew up being described as the easy child are often the ones who, later in life, are quietly realizing they were never actually easy - they were just unseen - Silicon Canals

The label of 'easy child' often masks deeper issues of unmet needs and emotional neglect.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

How Can Survivors Regain Pleasure After Sexual Trauma?

Survivors of sexual trauma can experience a range of sexual responses, including both desire and avoidance, and their fantasies often overlap with non-victims.
SF LGBT
fromwww.theguardian.com
6 days ago

Let's talk about sex in a world of porn | Letter

Straight male authors should embrace writing about sex, but the urgent conversation on sexual knowledge and pleasure is happening outside of literature.
Television
fromThe New Yorker
3 days ago

Now Streaming: Rich White Women with Emotional Problems in Peril

Rich White Women with Emotional Problems dominate streaming shows, with Nicole Kidman leading the genre.
Women
fromFast Company
3 days ago

How to respond to 'benevolent sexism' at work

Benevolent sexism, while appearing positive, undermines women's careers by reducing self-esteem and increasing emotional exhaustion.
Digital life
fromFinbold
3 days ago

Why You Don't Actually Own The Money You Own

You do not truly own your bank balance; banks control access to your money, making you an unsecured creditor.
LGBT
fromQueerty
1 day ago

Straight women are discovering age-gap relationships, but there's a gay twist - Queerty

Age gap relationships, particularly between older women and younger men, are gaining attention, influenced by cultural trends and economic factors.
Women in technology
fromwww.bbc.com
2 days ago

The Hong Kong rape allegation that led to blackmail conviction

Isabel Rose, a woman from London, faces legal challenges in Hong Kong after alleging rape, leading to her arrest instead of her assailant's.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

The people who were praised for being mature as children and punished for being needy as adults, and the decades it takes to untangle which one was actually true - Silicon Canals

Maturity in children often reflects adult expectations, leading to long-term consequences for the child's emotional development.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

5 things people who grew up lower middle class quietly do as adults that look strange until you understand the logic behind them - Silicon Canals

Lower middle class upbringing shapes adults' financial behaviors and anxieties, leading to habits like maintaining hidden emergency accounts.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the unhappiest men in any room aren't the ones who complain - they're the ones who've become so skilled at performing contentment that they've lost the ability to locate their own actual feelings beneath the performance - Silicon Canals

Many men mask their true feelings behind a facade of competence and ease, leading to emotional disconnection and confusion about their own emotions.
LGBT
fromQueerty
12 hours ago

Looksmaxxer says being called "gay" is a compliment because gay dating market's "a lot more competitive" - Queerty

Looksmaxxing reflects modern masculinity and a response to changing cultural dynamics regarding attractiveness and sexuality.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

I'm a 50-Year-Old Man. I'm Afraid My New Turn-On Makes Me a Terrible Person.

Exploring kinks can raise concerns about underlying misogyny, but self-reflection and active support for women's issues can help address these feelings.
#gender-dynamics
Mindfulness
fromBig Think
2 weeks ago

The "rawdogging" trend: A new term for an ancient practice

Rawdogging refers to engaging in introspection without distractions, particularly during flights, highlighting our struggle with downtime.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals

The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Situationships Aren't Casual, They're Draining

Ambiguity in situationships creates mental engagement and attachment, leading to anxiety and instability in relationships.
LGBT
fromQueerty
1 day ago

WATCH: Young love, conversion therapy & evil spirits-Leviticus is the queer horror everyone's going to be talking about - Queerty

Leviticus portrays a chilling coming-of-age story that intertwines queer identity with supernatural elements and conversion therapy themes.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

The Cost of Being the Person Everyone Likes

Overly agreeable individuals conceal significant negative feelings while creating a facade of closeness, leading to personal exhaustion and relationship challenges.
Relationships
fromwww.businessinsider.com
2 days ago

My husband won't help me manage our money, but he's full of opinions about how I spend it. Am I wrong to ignore him?

Disengagement in financial matters leads to conflict over household decisions and opinions in relationships.
Psychology
fromMail Online
5 days ago

Study reveals people most likely to be gold diggers - including men

Gold digging is an exploitative mating strategy observed in both men and women, often linked to narcissistic and reckless traits.
#friendship
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago
Relationships

There's a certain type of friendship you only appreciate in your 50s and 60s - the one where you can sit in the same room for an hour without talking and not feel like anything needs to be filled, and the fact that you can be completely unproductive in each other's company is the exact thing that makes it valuable, because most relationships require performance and this one doesn't - Silicon Canals

Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals

Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a certain type of friendship you only appreciate in your 50s and 60s - the one where you can sit in the same room for an hour without talking and not feel like anything needs to be filled, and the fact that you can be completely unproductive in each other's company is the exact thing that makes it valuable, because most relationships require performance and this one doesn't - Silicon Canals

Friendships that truly support you in later life often form in adulthood, not childhood, and thrive in shared silence and presence.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals

Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Why So Many Men Never Leave Home (and What It Costs Them)

One in six men without a college degree lives with their parents, impacting their social skills and labor force participation.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
2 days ago

Ask A MWLFT: What If The Spark Doesn't Come Back?

The empty nest may not revive a couple's sex life but reveals the underlying relationship dynamics shaped by parenting.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

The people who are constantly checking in on everyone else aren't necessarily nurturing. Many of them are quietly running an experiment to see if anyone will ever check in on them unprompted, and the experiment has been returning the same result for decades - Silicon Canals

Constantly reaching out to others can stem from childhood experiences of needing to earn attention.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals

Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who are careful about who they let into their life aren't antisocial or cold - they've simply learned that the wrong person in your inner circle costs more than an empty seat, and that math only becomes obvious after you've paid the price at least once - Silicon Canals

Selective relationship management involves careful curation of connections to optimize emotional and mental capital, recognizing that proximity impacts well-being.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
6 days ago

13 Sex Questions You Probably Haven't Asked Your Partner - But Should

Open communication about sex enhances intimacy and pleasure in relationships.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

The Minute This Sex Toy Enters the Bedroom, My Night Is Ruined

Using vibrators during sex can create challenges for tops seeking satisfaction and connection with their partners.
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
5 days ago

Are you a gentle partner' or a Fafo partner'? I know which team I'm on | Polly Hudson

Gentle partnering encourages active listening and empathy in relationships, particularly in challenging times.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 week ago

People Who've Been In 'Poly Under Duress' Relationships Share What It's Really Like

Polyamory is often entered into under pressure rather than genuine interest, as highlighted by celebrity experiences.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

My Girlfriend Is Prowling for Rich Ladies at the Cinema. I Don't Like It One Bit.

Friendship should not be transactional, as it reflects deeper issues in relationship dynamics.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

My Girlfriend's Sexual Behavior Would Really Turn Most Men On. But It's Killing Me With Embarrassment.

Personal preferences in sexual communication vary; not everyone enjoys or feels comfortable with dirty talk.
#open-relationships
Relationships
fromQueerty
1 week ago

He told me he was in an open relationship...after we hooked up. Am I wrong to be annoyed? - Queerty

Open relationships can create misunderstandings if all parties are not upfront about their status before engaging.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 weeks ago

People Who Convinced Their Partners To Open Their Relationships Share How It REALLY Went For Them

Open relationships can be a solution for couples facing emotional challenges, allowing sexual freedom while maintaining a primary partnership.
Relationships
fromQueerty
1 week ago

He told me he was in an open relationship...after we hooked up. Am I wrong to be annoyed? - Queerty

Open relationships can create misunderstandings if all parties are not upfront about their status before engaging.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 weeks ago

People Who Convinced Their Partners To Open Their Relationships Share How It REALLY Went For Them

Open relationships can be a solution for couples facing emotional challenges, allowing sexual freedom while maintaining a primary partnership.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

There's an Unfortunate Pattern to the Women I Sleep With. I'm Becoming "That Guy."

Insecurity about dating younger women can stem from societal judgment and personal feelings of inadequacy.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

I Have the Holy Trinity of Sex Problems. I Know What Would Solve Them, but I'm Too Scared to Try.

Exploring sexual orientation can involve complex feelings and societal pressures, especially regarding bisexuality and the fear of judgment.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 weeks ago

Embracing 'Outercourse' Might Totally Transform Your Sex Life

Outercourse encompasses various sexual activities beyond penetration, enhancing sexual pleasure and intimacy.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

My Boyfriend Has a Naughty Desire. But His Double Standard Is So Unfair, I Think I Have to Reject It on Principle.

Balancing personal desires and partner boundaries is crucial in sexual relationships.
LGBT
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

I'm Some People's Ultimate Fantasy. So Why Do They Run for the Hills When They Meet Me?

Take initiative on dates by signaling sexual interest through innuendo or direct proposition instead of letting shyness block opportunities.
#sexuality
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

I Love Sex With Other Women. I Can't Explain My Most Persistent Fantasy.

Changing unwanted sexual fantasies is difficult, especially when they are tied to negative past experiences.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

I Love Sex With Other Women. I Can't Explain My Most Persistent Fantasy.

Changing unwanted sexual fantasies is difficult, especially when they are tied to negative past experiences.
fromScary Mommy
1 month ago

What Is "Sex Debt" & Is It Killing The Mood In Your Marriage?

The moment sex becomes something you owe rather than something you want, the dynamic shifts entirely. It reframes intimacy as a transaction, and that's where things start to go wrong. Sex debt thinking often comes from a place of insecurity or poor communication. Usually, couples have never discussed what sex actually means to them in the context of their relationship.
Relationships
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
1 month ago

Why Do Women Like To Be Called 'Good Girl' In Bed? Sexperts Explain

Women may enjoy being called 'good girl' during sex because it combines mild submission with praise, often indicating a praise kink or power dynamic preference without requiring full BDSM engagement.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Really Need My Boyfriend to Go Down on Me. What He Does Instead Is Maddening.

Sexual incompatibility rooted in unresolved fear or insecurity requires honest communication and exploration of alternative ways to express intimacy and devotion beyond specific acts.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

My Husband and I Host Sex Parties. We're Feuding Over the Next Guest of Honor.

Inviting an ex to a sex party with a no-contact agreement creates awkwardness and contradicts typical party dynamics where all attendees are assumed available unless explicitly excluded.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

Ladies, We've Got To Stop Being Afraid To Sit On Our Partner's Faces (They *Love* It)

Men often enjoy face-sitting because it intensifies intimacy, centers the woman's pleasure, and creates a reversed power dynamic many find erotic.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

There's Only One Way I Can Keep Up With My Girlfriend's Lifestyle. My Friend Says It's Making Me "Powerless."

Accepting a partner’s account-linked credit card can create financial dependence and deserves caution, especially this early in a relationship.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

The Man I'm Seeing Swears He's Not Gay. I Have Some Questions.

A woman dating an effeminate man struggles with attraction differences and seeks advice on discussing his gender expression without offending him.
Relationships
fromIndependent
2 months ago

Modern Morals: I've never had an orgasm - how do I tell my boyfriend I've been lying without wounding his pride?

Persistent inability to orgasm coexists with a strong need to control sexual experiences; enjoys sex but reports never orgasming and tells partner orgasms are subtle.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Girlfriend and I Can Only Have Sex in a Unique Way. She Thinks I'm Going to Leave Her in Search of Something More "Conventional."

Her preferred form of intimacy is to touch herself while letting me pump her mouth. It's been great and honestly hot, and she leans submissive in bed, so it's worked out well on that end, too. It's perfectly fulfilling for me and even unintentionally kinky in a way I like, and she says she enjoys that I'm still actively penetrating her even if not in a typical way.
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