I want to ask you a question: Do you think the choices you make today will have any impact on your future? If we stop to think about it, most of us would say, "Yes, of course." But we don't actually live that way. We tend to view our days as a series of isolated events-a mishmash of choices that seem totally inconsequential in the moment. We choose what to eat, what to watch, or how to react to a spouse, assuming these small moments vanish as soon as they pass.
I, too, have been having difficulty conjuring up visions of a better future either for myself or in general. I posted this insight on social media in the final throes of 2025, and received many responses. A lot of respondents agreed they felt like they were just existing, encased in a bubble of the present tense, the road ahead foggy with uncertainty.
"Life doesn't care about your passion, and I don't care about your passion," Herjavec recalled Cuban saying during a show taping one season. "I don't care that you love golf or basketball or AI or cyber, I don't give a shit about any of that. What I want to know is, what are you obsessed with?" Herjavec added to Fortune. "Passion is easy, because passion is a wish, but obsession is an action. Passion doesn't demand anything of you. Obsession requires everything of you."
The answer requires what I call wisdom of temporal perspectives in our decision-making. The wisdom of temporal perspectives involves the temporal appraisal of the current situation, where we take into consideration past factors that give rise to the situation and future consequences that may transpire when solving problems and making decisions. It is a form of transformational wisdom that is particularly important in a complex world of challenges today.
Yet, sometimes, this stability is conflated with monotony. Days flow into each other without any trouble at all, and partners are led to wonder whether the absence of friction in their relationship could be a sign of stagnation. Yet, in so many cases, this very stability is proof of a solid, enduring form of love that has simply moved beyond the phase of volatile romance.
We wanted to set ourselves up for the future. It took a year, but we found our home. We searched for a home that could serve us for the long haul - a place to raise kids and, eventually, age in place.