Careers
fromFast Company
5 hours agoLaid off? Lean on your relationships, not your network
Job cuts due to AI are rising, emphasizing the importance of building strong relationships before layoffs occur.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI used to be lonely and now I'm not, and the honest version of how that happened isn't that I found my people - it's that I stopped waiting for someone to come find me and quietly became someone worth finding - Silicon Canals
Loneliness stems from perceived social isolation, not just being alone; true connection requires internal change rather than external circumstances.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals
Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals
Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
6 days agoI was laid off twice from the same company. The second time was a gut punch but taught me not to take cuts personally.
When the CEO held a virtual town hall in 2020 and said there needed to be layoffs, I knew I would be one of the first to go because I served zero purpose at that point.
Marketing
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours agoI spent most of my twenties believing that needing less than other people was a strength. It took a decade of watching people who actually asked for things get them to realize I hadn't transcended need, I had just gotten so good at preemptive refusal that nobody ever had the chance to say yes - Silicon Canals
Avoidant attachment can prevent meaningful connections by valuing self-sufficiency over emotional engagement, leading to a life of preemptive refusal.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals
Authentic friendships emerge when individuals drop their facades and share their true struggles with each other.
fromFast Company
4 days agoWhat to do after a life-defining mistake
The only thing worse than making a mistake is keeping it bottled up inside. Learning from the mistakes of others could help you embark on the healing journey of sharing and working through a mistake of your own, with someone you trust.
Books
fromPsychology Today
6 days agoPartnership on the Spiritual Path
Devon Hase states, 'People are trying desperately to fix, optimize, or escape their way out of relationship difficulty - and suffering more for the effort. Social media has made this worse! We're surrounded by images of perfect partnerships while quietly drowning in our own ordinary struggles.' This highlights the pressure couples feel in the age of social media.
Mindfulness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoPeople who are extremely good at reading a room often have no idea how to simply be in one. The scanning never stops. The social radar that everyone admires is the same system that prevents them from ever fully arriving anywhere, because arriving would require turning it off. - Silicon Canals
Emotional intelligence often acts as a surveillance system that hinders genuine connection rather than enhancing it.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals
Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
9 hours agoI was always the reliable one - the one who showed up, remembered, rearranged, and absorbed - and it took me until 58 to wonder whether anyone would have come looking if I'd stopped - Silicon Canals
Being the reliable one can lead to personal neglect and invisibility in relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
Philosophy
fromWarpweftandway
3 weeks agoTwo Collaborative Learning () Events This Week
The 四海为学 Collaborative Learning Project hosts two free public events: Louise Edwards discussing childhood and gender in China on March 19, and Peter Hershock exploring AI and agency from a Buddhist perspective on March 20.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThe hardest friendships to maintain aren't the ones with conflict. They're the ones where both people are growing but in different directions, and neither person is wrong, and there's no argument to have, just a slow widening that nobody caused and nobody can fix. - Silicon Canals
Friendships often end due to gradual emotional distance rather than specific events, highlighting the importance of recognizing blameless drift.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThere's a specific kind of loyalty that keeps people in jobs, cities, and friendships years after the reason they stayed has disappeared. It's not inertia. It's that leaving would require admitting the time already spent wasn't building toward something, and that admission costs more than staying another year. - Silicon Canals
People remain in unfulfilling situations due to the fear of admitting past investments were unproductive, not because of passivity or fear of change.
Relationships
fromPortland Monthly
2 weeks agoFrom the Editor: Building Community Isn't Always Fun. Do It Anyway.
Proximity-based community organizing builds solidarity across differences through sustained engagement and shared material goals, fostering understanding that transcends initial disagreements.
fromFast Company
1 week agoMade a mistake at work? Here's how to fix it in three easy steps
To successfully repair after a mistake, you need to acknowledge and name the mistake, validate the other person's feelings and viewpoint, and create a plan for the specific actions you will take to prevent this mistake from occurring again.
Careers
fromBusiness Insider
1 month agoI played hooky from work - and it taught me a lesson about community
We're also spending less time with friends. For years, Americans averaged about 6.5 hours a week with friends. Between 2014 and 2019, that number plunged by 37%, to just 4 hours. The year 2014 coincides with a rise in smartphone users.
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