My brother and I fight often because we live next door to each other. Everything changed when I introduced him to my partner.
Briefly

Two adult siblings who previously lived apart now share a city and increasingly fight. Proximity has amplified long-standing tensions, triggering explosive disagreements over minor issues. The brother exhibits intrusive behaviors—inspecting cabinets, raiding the fridge, hiding cannabis in a vase, and walking in on an intimate encounter—prompting angry outbursts. The relationship alternates between close companionship and intense conflict. Both siblings relocated to Minneapolis to join the family business and in June 2024 decided to focus on creating a commercial arm for their mother's residential remodeling company. A partner's presence prompted a kinder, less biased view of the brother.
I never planned for snapping at my brother David to become part of my personality. Then again, I also hadn't planned on him living in the apartment next door and dropping by at his leisure to inspect every cabinet and raid my fridge. Sometimes he'll find my cannabis and hide it in a vase. Recently, he walked in on me cuddling in underwear with a guy, and I had to scream at him to get out.
On our best days, he has been the Joey to my Chandler. But lately, our difficult relationship has taken an unexpected turn for the worse, and our fights have been channeling a type of anger that feels like it has been fuming for 30 years. Simply put, we couldn't have a small disagreement without going from zero to 100. I thought he was to blame for our fights until I introduced him to my partner, which made me see him through unbiased, kinder eyes.
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