This is how we do it: I bought a book on tantra erections are not necessary'

I met Jenny in a coffee shop 18 months ago and felt immediately drawn to her; she is very delicate and petite, but what really struck me was her kindness and warmth.

Knowing my physical limitations, I bought a book on tantra, and suggested we reject the normal sexual agenda. Instead, we do a lot of very tender kissing, caressing and stroking. Erections are not necessary.

With Jenny, neither of us ever has to explicitly suggest sex. We both instinctively head to the bedroom when we can.

For me, sex has always been an important way of communicating love, so the fact that my partners rarely took the initiative was hurtful. But with Jenny, neither of us ever has to explicitly suggest sex. We both instinctively head to the bedroom when we can.

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