Emotional affairs. It's not just 'having a good friend' when she knows things about me that my best friends don't even know - and that I told you, my husband, and assumed confidence. That violation hurts more than if you slept with her in front of me.
You become so financially tied to each other. I know it's silly, but it's hard to leave because you don't know if you can survive without that other person while also being a parent.
No one talks about how possible it is for the love of your life to turn into a stranger. My husband was my best friend, my favorite person, my ride-or-die. But we got older and had a kid, and priorities changed, and his poor coping mechanisms turned into addictions and escapism. And eventually, he turned into a man capable of things I never would have thought possible. Our 14th anniversary would have been in March, but our divorce will be final in February.
That equality really doesn't exist. The majority of women continue to shoulder all the responsibilities of the household and are the default parents. I thought that when I got married, it would be different from what other generations experienced regarding having both a career and a family. Socially, society hasn't really caught up either. Maintaining a successful career and making sure your kids have all the play dates, birthdays, sports, socials, etc that they need when growing up is damn near impossible when you are the default (or single) parent.
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