For some men, their home is their castle, and their yard is their kingdom. Your husband seems to like marking his turf literally. Because you can't make him see reason, it may be time for your neighbors to report him to the authorities for exposing himself in public. And, between you and me, that he would urinate in a public park may indicate that he's slipping mentally, which should be mentioned to his doctor.
From what you have written, it appears the man you have been with for 13 years spends the exact amount of time with you that he wishes, with little to no regard for your needs. You could talk at Ben until the cows come home, but he won't get the message. For your sake, invest no more time in this man. Concentrate on finding a partner who is willing to give you what you need.
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