"When we think about it from this perspective, being centred in self doesn't mean being selfish. It's about strengthening our foundation so we can stay grounded and in alignment with what matters most. It's also a way to connect with our inner knowing. When we are this kind of centred, it means making sure we are attentive to our own needs, wants, and feelings, and giving ourselves permission to do what helps us feel steady so we can show up with greater capacity for others."
"When we hear the word self-centred, it usually lands as an insult. In Western culture, being called self-centred suggests you're self-absorbed, selfish, egotistical, and unconcerned with others. From a young age, many of us are taught to put other people's needs ahead of our own. Especially for women and caregivers, there's a cultural script that makes self-sacrifice almost heroic while making self-care seem indulgent."
Being centred in oneself strengthens internal foundation and prevents important values from becoming afterthoughts. Cultural norms often label self-focus as selfish, teaching people—especially women and caregivers—to prioritize others and treat self-care as indulgent. Reframing centring as attentive, not selfish, supports connection to inner knowing and alignment with priorities. Small, intentional practices that support wellbeing are supported by science and enable rest, recovery, and replenishment. When grounded and well-resourced, individuals gain greater capacity to show up generously for others. Generosity and service contribute to meaning, but neglecting personal needs undermines sustainable care and long-term presence.
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