The letter discusses the struggle of a 75-year-old professional woman coping with her husband’s lack of motivation after months without work. Although they maintain a good marriage, she feels resentment as he spends his days napping and avoiding meaningful activities. The response emphasizes the psychological impact of sudden idleness, hinting at his potential feelings of inadequacy about his work situation. It suggests that both partners need to find ways to address their respective unhappiness, particularly the husband’s unease with the prospect of retirement.
A big difference between your husband and Garfield is that your husband wants to work... While getting paid to do nothing might suit some, this shift is his workload could be bringing feelings of inadequacy.
Many people express trepidation about transitioning to retired life - it's a huge life shift that can knock you back on your heels even if you're looking forward to it.
I suspect some of the malaise that's fallen over him reflects this unmet desire. The napping, the loss of interest in hobbies could show he's struggling internally.
It kills me that I am busy all day long and have to watch him nap fully clothed in bed. I know I can only change myself, but I am really very unhappy.
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