The article emphasizes the importance of understanding sexual compatibility in long-term relationships, as discussed by the author in her latest book, "Come Together." It argues that allegedly incompatible partners may simply hold different mental scripts regarding sex. The key is to foster an environment of curiosity, compassion, and playfulness around sexual experiences. In more genuine cases of incompatibility, open communication about desires and boundaries can lead to solutions where all involved partners feel respected and valued.
Most of what we call incompatibility is actually two people having scripts in their head about how sex is supposed to work and those scripts being different.
If there's an ideal, it's that everyone turns toward whatever's happening with curiosity, compassion and a sense of play.
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