This is how we do it: Now that we're having sex, can I still call myself asexual?'

"Everyone defines and relates to the idea of asexuality differently. For me, it's not the same as just not feeling in the mood for sex. I don't feel sexual desire towards anyone, but I do feel romantic desire."

"We like hanging out on the sofa, making food, being in proximity to one another. The physical intimacy isn't the core thing that either of us want in our relationship."

"I feel in a weird place at the moment because I am having sex, so wonder if I can still call myself asexual. Sex has been a lovely way to connect with Phoebe."

"I don't really feel sexual desire, but I do feel a strong desire for companionship. That's how I imagine romance, a feeling of wanting to be near Phoebe."

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