""I hate giving flowers because of how it makes me feel," Safe Elghorab admits while putting together a flower arrangement with his friends. His friends see this admission as an opening to unpack Safe's honest take. "How does it make you feel? Let's talk about it!" "Just always ask why," another friend, Chui, recommends, and soon, the men are unpacking why Safe "hates" giving flowers. "Why does it make you feel vulnerable?""
""I feel like it's embarrassing," Safe admits. "Why is it embarrassing?" his friend asks off-camera. "Because I'm doing something I'm not used to me doing..." Safe admits before his friends press for more information. "Why wouldn't you usually do something like that?" they ask. Safe replies, "Because I'm not used to it." "And why are we not used to it?" his friend replies."
A TikTok video captures young men discussing toxic masculinity, patriarchy, gender norms, and emotional vulnerability while arranging flowers. One man, Safe Elghorab, says he hates giving flowers because of how it makes him feel, prompting friends to probe his discomfort with repeated questions. The men trace the discomfort to childhood absence of receiving flowers and societal norms that designate bouquets as gifts for women. The group identifies a root cause of learned emotional limits and explores why performing an unfamiliar affectionate gesture feels embarrassing and out of character.
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