"Your sexual partner told you, multiple times, that he was going to ejaculate if you continued what you were doing, and tried to put a stop to the actions you were engaged in that were going to lead to him ejaculating. This isn't even about sex-you disregarded the information he was giving you because you thought you knew more about him than he knows about himself."
"Your own failure to listen to what your partner was saying and believe what he was telling you is why your boundary around having semen in your mouth was crossed. Your decision to prioritize what you assumed about the general category of male bodies over what this particular man was telling you about his own specific body led to this situation."
A 19-year-old woman experienced a boundary violation when her 18-year-old partner ejaculated in her mouth after she told him not to. The partner had warned multiple times that he would ejaculate if they continued and tried to stop, but was stopped by her. The incident arose from assuming general male physiology over that partner's explicit words about his own body. Individuals should be believed when they report bodily limits or imminent responses. Sexual consent requires listening to and respecting a partner's statements and stopping when a partner objects. Clear communication and respect for stated boundaries are necessary going forward.
Read at Slate Magazine
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