She insists that we never have sex while we are guests in their home or they are guests in ours. As ridiculous as I think that is, I am willing to go along with it. However, my wife has now decided it even extends to self-pleasure. She has forbidden me from taking a Fleshlight and has gone so far as to say I'm not even allowed to jerk off! She's completely out of line here, right?
You wrote that you know you would think less of him. If you're certain, or even fairly certain, that you will lose a significant amount of attraction or respect for your partner if you proceed with a particular sex act, the situation is more high-risk for the relationship than a turn-off or a lack of interest would be. "Mean" here would look like using language of shame and judgment when talking to him about it: "Ew, gross, I'll never see you as a man again."
My wife and I have been at odds over something since we've been together. She gets especially horny during her period and wants sex. The idea of doing it while she has that going on sickens me. With the exceptions of when she was pregnant, every month it's been the same thing when that week rolls around: the demands, my refusals, and the accusations that I'm "not a real man." How can I get through to her that this is off the table for me once and for all? -Counting the Days Until Menopause
