"After my marriage ended, I became resentful. Sold on the benefits of harboring that resentment, I spent years being angry at my ex-wife. It took me years to understand the cost of harboring resentment. And I begin learning to let it go. Today, except for an occasional flare-up, I feel gratitude towards my ex-wife, the mother of my children. She's now the grandmother of my grandkids, and I wish her and her husband every happiness."
"What we decide to do with our past can either lift us and lighten our load-or weigh us down. The cost of harboring resentments, revenge, and blind certainty is great. Learning how to let go of what I call false promises opens the doors to possibility, opportunity, healing, and peace. The most common of false promises is resentment. Resentment can build up inside us like plaque when we hide, deny, and repress our hurt, anger, disappointment,"
A person became resentful after a marriage ended and spent years angry at an ex-spouse before recognizing the personal cost and learning to let go. Occasional flare-ups remain, but gratitude now replaces most anger, accompanied by goodwill toward the ex and her new family. Choosing how to respond to the past can either lighten or burden emotional life. Resentment acts like a false promise that accumulates like plaque when hurt, anger, and disappointment are denied or repressed. Resentment can deaden relationships, prevent accountability, and sabotage opportunities for forgiveness, healing, and reconciliation, though some wrongs may not warrant forgiveness.
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