"When you bite your tongue repeatedly, underneath it may feel like you are avoiding conflict, but often you're actually building up resentment. We all know that the 'bottle it up and implode or explode later' plan does not work well for any of us. Every unspoken thought becomes a brick in the wall that grows between you and the other person."
"Someone makes a statement, and you know it is not true. Most of us can think of those times where we have smiled and nodded, likely to avoid "making waves." Perhaps a coworker was convinced of a deadline, and they were mistaken. Maybe a friend was complaining about their relationship partner and how they do much more, and you inwardly disagree. Perhaps a family member touts a worldview without a convincing rationale for it."
Repeated silence in the face of disagreement builds resentment and erodes personal integrity and emotional health. Unspoken thoughts accumulate like bricks, creating a wall that leads to distance, distraction, and disconnection. Avoiding immediate conflict can intensify future friction and reinforce bitterness or emotional withdrawal. Speaking up kindly and sensibly fosters connection and signals care and value for others. Occasional silence is appropriate when someone is irrational, intoxicated, vindictive, emotionally volatile, or potentially violent. Failing to express true thoughts loses opportunities for honest exchange and weakens relationships over time. Examples include smiling and nodding when someone is factually wrong or asserting an unsupported worldview.
Read at Psychology Today
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