""Oh, no," lamented Sarah, "Is it going to happen again?" She was responding to the possibility that her partner, Joshua, would lose his temper once again, which was a frequent occurrence. She did not trust him, and the result was anxiety, leading to sleeplessness, worry, and irritability. Research reviewed by Tomlinson and Mayer (2009) supports the view that mistrust can be accompanied by anger and fear. Joshua's temper and Sarah's response of anxiety were affecting their relationship."
"After reviewing a wide literature on the topic, they concluded that trust involves positive expectations of the other, including that person's intentions and behavior. The one who trusts fosters within the self an intention to be vulnerable toward the other. Trust differs from cooperation, which at times could be behavior motivated by fear of reprisal. Five points are presented in re-establishing trust for your consideration."
Shattered trust can leave partners expecting the relationship to be beyond repair and can trigger anxiety, sleeplessness, worry, and irritability. Mistrust commonly accompanies anger and fear and undermines relationship functioning. Trust involves positive expectations about another person's intentions and behavior and requires a willingness to be vulnerable. Trust differs from cooperation when cooperation is motivated by fear of reprisal. Re-establishing trust requires the offending partner to show remorse, admit wrongs, and make reparative actions, and requires sustained mutual work and time rather than quick fixes. Positive challenges exist for both partners during the repair process.
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