My Friend of 15 Years Just Revealed Her Theory About Why I Got Ahead at Work. I'm Stunned.
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Consideration of maintaining friendship after hurtful comments reveals the importance of sincere apologies. Friendship dynamics can shift dramatically following insensitive remarks that trigger emotional responses. Deciding whether to respond can depend on the friend’s willingness to acknowledge mistakes. Communication about feelings can open doors for potential reconciliation. However, trust may be fundamentally altered by questionable beliefs revealed during challenging times. Observations of success and societal narratives on race can complicate interpersonal relations, necessitating sensitive handling of delicate topics.
The comments were so out of line that you shouldn't dignify them with an actual response. If you want to give Jane the chance to apologize, let her know how hurt you were.
I can hear what a good, empathic friend you are. Most people would probably end their friendship after what she said without a second thought.
Read at Slate Magazine
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