"He feeds my kinks, so I want to feed this one. I know enough to know there's no such thing as being permanently "stretched out" like in erotica, but I also feel like there should be ways not to be as tight for him. The problem is, I have no clue how to do that. Reverse Kegels? Just dirty talk? Any advice? -Trying to Limber Up"
"Presuming you're able to do Kegel exercises, yes, relaxing those same muscles during sex can help increase a feeling of looseness. You might also visualize your vaginal canal and pelvic floor expanding. Positions that keep your legs somewhat apart while avoiding pelvic tension can be useful, too. Lastly, if you want to surprise your boyfriend by being very loose at the beginning of a sexual interaction, you can masturbate in whichever ways leave you most wet and loose just before he arrives."
A cis woman reports a boyfriend who prefers her very wet and loose and asks how to be less tight. She acknowledges that permanent stretching is a myth but wants practical methods. The boyfriend's response to extensive foreplay and fingering suggests arousal-based loosening. Suggestions include using dirty talk, prolonged foreplay and manual stimulation, practicing pelvic-floor relaxation or reverse Kegels during sex, and visualizing the vaginal canal and pelvic floor expanding. Positions that keep the legs somewhat apart and avoid pelvic tension can help. Masturbating shortly before sexual activity to be especially wet and relaxed can produce early looseness.
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