Modern Morals: My gluttonous friend eats and drinks much more than the rest of our group - surely it's not fair to just split the restaurant bill evenly?

"As I've recently given up alcohol, I'm finding this even more frustrating as I feel I'm essentially paying for her expensive tastes"

"I am at the end of my tether with one of my friends. We have a large friend group and we try to meet up in a restaurant every month to keep in touch."

A large friend group meets monthly at restaurants to keep in touch. One friend consistently chooses expensive menu items and add-ons that inflate the shared bill. The monthly gatherings create repeated situations where others feel obliged to cover or accommodate those higher costs. Recent personal sobriety has made the financial imbalance feel more pronounced, since alcohol-related spending no longer applies to the speaker. The combination of recurring expense, perceived unfairness, and emotional exhaustion has left the speaker at the end of their tether with that friend.

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