"What does your best friend have to say about all this? It is not that Miss Manners mistrusts your intentions, but you are doing an awful lot of thinking and fretting on his behalf. The problem with posting events on social media is that other people see them and either assume that they are invited, feel bad that they were not, or invite themselves."
"If you can politely tell her that you think the party might be awkward for her or better yet, have your best friend do it that would be a first step. If she shows up anyway, you (or he) can reiterate. But if all that fails, and the party is in fact ruined, at least you will have learned that there are risks to making invitations visible to all."
"Also, whether or not you deem it overly dramatic, if this woman is routinely crying, fainting and threatening her own life, someone should check on her."
When an uninvited ex-girlfriend invites herself to a party posted on social media, the host should first discuss the situation with their best friend rather than handling it unilaterally. A polite but direct conversation explaining that attendance would be awkward is appropriate, ideally delivered by the friend himself. If she arrives despite this, the boundary should be reiterated. The advice emphasizes that social media invitations create visibility problems and suggests private invitations prevent such situations. Additionally, the response notes concern about the ex-girlfriend's pattern of emotional manipulation through crying, fainting, and suicide threats, suggesting someone should check on her wellbeing.
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