"This is very sweet, but what you describe sounds like a fleeting moment that probably owes a lot to the substances that were fueling it. If someone comes out of this situation scared of you, it doesn't necessarily mean that you did anything wrong, but it does mean that if you want to preserve any kind of dynamic with this person, you should ease off. I am inclined to trust his friends' claims."
"They likely have his best interest in mind, and if he were into you, they'd probably be clamoring to hook you up. Friends typically have their friends' best interest in mind. Right now they're trying to keep you away from him. Granted, they could have nefarious motivation here that is targeting you for some reason irrespective of his feelings for you, but I doubt it."
"Right now they're trying to keep you away from him. Granted, they could have nefarious motivation here that is targeting you for some reason irrespective of his feelings for you, but I doubt it. Now is not the time to confess your love-some degree of it was loud and clear at the after party, and he's freaked out by it. You must realize that, 'He doesn't seem to be avoiding me,' is hardly a ringing endorsement."
A romantic, intoxicated moment likely reflected the influence of substances and may not indicate lasting mutual interest. If the person appears scared, that response does not automatically imply wrongdoing by the other party, but it does require stepping back to preserve any future relationship dynamic. Friends often act to protect their friend and may be discouraging contact for that reason, though malicious motives are possible but unlikely. Public civility such as not avoiding someone is a minimal standard and not proof of genuine romantic interest. Immediate confession of strong feelings is ill-advised while the other person is unsettled.
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