"We mutually agreed that we value a strong connection that we want to bring to sexual encounters, which would ideally be repeat encounters even if it's just for casual sex."
"He really enjoyed it and was really vocal during the act about how much he was enjoying the sex, really effusively moaning about how much he "loved" my body, our connection, etc."
"I don't want to sleep with this guy again. I feel completely unattracted to him and even if we had a conversation about the aspects of our encounter that turned me off, I would still be completely turned off and not want to sleep with him again."
A person met a man, exchanged texts, had dinner, and then sex after negotiating boundaries and preferences. The sexual encounter felt awkward because the partner was excessively vocal, effusive about the body and connection, and a poor kisser. The partner's sleep habits during the overnight stay added further irritation. The person no longer feels sexual attraction and does not want to continue encounters. The person feels conflicted about ghosting because both parties valued honesty and transparency. A short, kind, and clear message that states a lack of ongoing interest without gratuitous detail preserves honesty and dignity for both.
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