"A small study published in January found that respondents had, on average, nine types of secret squirrelled away, with the most important ones crossing their minds every two hours, potentially affecting psychological wellbeing."
"I approve, in principle, of the French notion that it's psychologically healthy to have a jardin secret, a hinterland that is no one's business but your own."
"I had to keep someone else's secret from him for a few weeks earlier this year and it felt wrong and deeply uncomfortable. I don't want to do that again."
People keep an average of nine types of secrets, which can negatively affect psychological wellbeing. While some secrecy can add excitement to relationships, complete transparency is often expected. The French concept of a 'jardin secret' suggests that having personal secrets is healthy. However, sharing everything with a partner can create discomfort. The author reflects on their long-term relationship, noting that while they share much, keeping certain secrets can feel wrong, highlighting the complexity of secrecy in intimate relationships.
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