The article discusses the complexities of experiencing attraction outside a long-term relationship, emphasizing that such feelings can arise naturally. The voice advises against viewing this attraction as a direct comparison to the partner, clarifying that initial crushes often stem from newness and rapport rather than genuine deficiencies in the existing relationship. It encourages reflection on personal motivations and the situational implications before making any disclosures to the partner, highlighting the importance of managing both moral and emotional aspects in this context.
It's very unlikely that in a long relationship you'll never once feel attracted to anyone else. It's not the having of the crush that betrays your partner in monogamous relationships, it's the way you interact with it.
People are weirdly bad at this. They think, look how much I'm feeling! and infer, look how much better this person is than my partner! But a rush of attraction is always more than a response to a particular person.
There's nothing wrong with that, necessarily. You can enjoy a rush of attraction without it diminishing your existing relationship. It’s essential to reflect on why this attraction resonated with you.
Before deciding whether to disclose your feelings to your partner, it may be beneficial to explore your motivations and the implications behind your attraction.
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