"I'm struggling with the behavior of my close friend's husband, and I'm worried about how it's affecting her. He is the most indecisive person I have ever encountered. Any time we visit, he has to plan our schedule down to the minute, but even then, he constantly changes his mind.Nothing actually gets decided until the last possible second, which turns every outing into a stressful ordeal."
"If I invite my friend to do something-just the two of us-he refuses to let her go unless he also feels like doing it. He claims it's "unfair" for her to experience anything without him. Meanwhile, when he wants to do an activity she doesn't enjoy, he insists that she accompany him anyway, even though she repeatedly tells him he's welcome to go alone or ask someone else."
A close friend's husband exhibits extreme indecisiveness, planning outings down to the minute yet changing plans until the last second, which causes stress. He prevents the friend from attending events alone, claiming it is unfair for her to have experiences without him, while demanding she join activities she dislikes. The friend minimizes these behaviors as quirks, but an observer perceives them as controlling and isolating. The observer questions whether the behavior meets a definition of abuse or reflects neediness, focusing on words like insists and refuses in assessing intent and severity. Guidance is sought on how to support the friend without overstepping boundaries.
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