"We have been intimate, but due to our work schedules, we had never spent the night together until the last couple of weekends. Cesar, when he sleeps, sleeps on top of the covers (wearing pajamas) and basically looks like he is in a coffin. Flat on his back, no pillow, arms crossed over his chest, never moving from the time we say, "Goodnight" until one of us wakes up for the day."
"One time, I honestly thought he was dead because I could not hear him breathe, and his skin actually felt cooler to the touch. It kind of freaks me out if I happen to get up to use the bathroom and come back to what looks like a dead man lying on the bed. Plus, with him on top of the covers and me under the covers (I need a cover over me to sleep),"
The couple has dated for several months and only recently began spending nights together because of work schedules. Cesar sleeps fully on top of the covers, wearing pajamas, flat on his back with arms crossed, no pillow, and remains motionless from bedtime until morning. He attributes the posture to being a hot sleeper and to deliberately lowering his breathing rate to "hypnotize/hibernate" himself into sleep. His partner finds the stillness and cool skin alarming, at times fearing he might be dead, and misses nighttime cuddling. The breathing-control technique reflects strong self-regulation and resembles aims pursued with various sleep aids and habits.
Read at Slate Magazine
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