"My husband and I always had a pretty good sex life, but three kids in six years really left us exhausted. Happy! But so tired and so out of touch with each other. Friends would tell us to schedule date nights, but babysitters and the logistics of it made it seem overwhelming. We figured we were just in a weird stage and would get through it."
"I felt guilty that I hadn't noticed as time was passing, but when I brought it up to my husband, he said he felt the same way. It's easy to think, "Oh, if we aren't missing it, we don't need it," but we were missing it. Once I thought about it, it was all I could think about - I wanted that intimacy, I wanted to feel desired by my husband, and I wanted him to feel good and secure in our marriage, too."
"I don't know if it's like a Pavlovian response, but something about scheduling sex completely changed my brain chemistry. On a Tuesday now - the one day of the week we don't have kid activities - I know I'm going to get hot, sexy alone time with my guy. It's like I'm horny as soon as I wake up, and we send each other sexy texts and photos. Because we know which days we're going to be intimate, it also gives us ti"
A mother of three and her husband put sex on a schedule after realizing weeks had passed without intimacy. They began with Saturday nights, felt awkward at first, then regained their groove and added another day. Scheduled intimacy created anticipation and increased arousal on designated days. Sexting and explicit communication followed, and predictable private time reduced logistical barriers. The routine rebuilt desire, made both partners feel desired and secure, and helped restore connection amid the exhaustion of raising young children.
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