"You say she's your best friend. Find out what's going on in her life. This represents a change of behavior. Did she lose her job? Does she suddenly have more expenses? What has happened? Ask her directly. Frame it by recalling the truth. Tell her you have noticed that in recent weeks and months, she has asked you to spot her money more frequently, and she has never paid you back."
"I love my best friend, but our friendship is beginning to feel transactional. Lately, she keeps forgetting to repay small loans for things like drinks, rideshares, movie tickets, etc. She always promises to send it later, but the payments never come. I've let it slide for months because it's not like we're talking about hundreds of dollars, but it's starting to add up, and at this point, it feels like she's taking advantage of me."
A friend repeatedly forgets to repay small loans for drinks, rideshares, and tickets, promising to pay later but never doing so, causing resentment and a sense of being taken advantage of. The recommended approach is to ask directly about changes in the friend's life, notice the shift as a change of behavior, and frame the conversation by recalling the recent pattern of frequent spotting without repayment. Express discomfort, listen to learn whether the friend is in trouble, and if the explanation is unsatisfactory, stop giving money going forward. Another person reports moving in with a boyfriend and facing parental disapproval and family tension.
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