Getting Closer to the Bones

"Coping with the death of a loved one is individual and, like anything else, exemplified by what works for you. Grief rituals can be practiced alone or with others, created uniquely by you or replicated over centuries."

"Those who lose a child or partner seem to need and use after-death rituals more than those who lose a parent or other loved one. This makes sense, as those grieving a child or partner may have a greater attachment to those closest of relationships."

"Out of a Dutch sample of over 550 participants, 85% participated in individual rituals (e.g., lighting a candle at home, visiting the grave) in the three years after their loved one's death. Over 50% participated in group rituals, such as memorial services or sharing stories of the deceased."

"Post-death rituals facilitate coping, adjustment, and recovery from loss. We have much to learn about how these rituals help individuals navigate their grief."

Grief rituals can be personal or shared, reflecting individual needs in coping with loss. Continuing bonds with deceased loved ones are recognized as normal and healthy. Research indicates that those grieving a child or partner often engage in more after-death rituals than those mourning other relationships. A study showed that 85% of participants engaged in individual rituals, while over 50% took part in group rituals. These practices are essential for facilitating coping, adjustment, and recovery from grief.

Read at Psychology Today