Asking Eric: I've seen my boyfriend fondling all these women. He says I'm crazy.

"My problem is that whenever we are around other women, my boyfriend locks eyes with a woman and stares at her seductively, sometimes rubbing her back, cuddling with her, sometimes kissing her and giving her his undivided attention. It doesn't matter if the women are wives of his friends, neighbors, new acquaintances he even does his seductive stare while conducting business with women. The women love it, and it usually ends up being a mutual seduction."

"When his seductive/flirtations start, I am ignored, humiliated, embarrassed and totally disrespected by both parties. I say nothing while this is going on in front of my eyes. I do not want to make a scene. I dread going to any get-togethers with him, because of his seductive come-ons to other women. Privately I have confronted Lover Boy about his performance. He lies, says I am crazy and that it never happened."

"Two pieces of advice: First, this behavior is bothering you and it's wise to separate yourself from it if your boyfriend refuses to stop or acknowledge it's happening. That may mean putting a pause on your relationship and physically separating yourself until this is resolved through counseling or conversation. Second, talk to friends you trust about what's going on. Ask them if they're seeing the same thing you're seeing."

A partner frequently engages in overt, seductive behavior with other women in public and professional settings, including staring, touching, cuddling, and kissing. Those interactions often become mutual and may include sexual encounters, leaving the partner ignored, humiliated, and disrespected. Direct confrontation has been met with denial and accusations of irrationality. Recommended responses include temporarily separating or pausing the relationship if the behavior continues and seeking counseling or mediated conversation to resolve it. Another recommended step is to ask trusted friends to confirm whether they observe the same behavior, since the displays are public and likely verifiable.

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