"Short and sweet: She should have asked and she shouldn't have been huffy about getting told no. The manners books don't really address this three-slice conundrum because it seems specific to your friend. Personally, if I've got a limited number of slices, I'm not going to invite this person to my party. There's no harm in asking for what you want, but it's also important not to get carried away."
"On my 37th birthday, I had a gathering of about 12 of the gals over. I baked my own cake, a simple two-layer round one, that had to be divided carefully to ensure that every attendee got a slice. After everyone who wanted one had a slice, I was delighted to see that there were still three slivers on the plate. But at the end of the party, they were gone. The cake hoarder had struck again."
"At my 40th birthday party, as I was in the process of cutting the cake, she came up to me with a plate in her hand and asked if she could have a few extra slices to take home to her family. I said no. If there were a few slices left over, I would be taking them home to enjoy as it was my birthday cake. She looked shocked, angry and hurt."
A woman habitually wraps pieces of birthday cake to take home for her family, sometimes without asking. On one birthday three slivers disappeared after the host had intended them to remain. At another birthday the woman asked for extra slices and was refused; she reacted with shock and anger. Guests should ask before taking cake and should not be huffy when refused. Hosts may choose to limit invitations if a guest repeatedly overreaches. Hosts are not obligated to provide cake for a guest's family.
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