"The friends who stick around are the ones who text back when you're having a mundane Tuesday crisis about whether to switch internet providers. They're interested in your boring work drama. They remember to ask how your dentist appointment went. I have this group chat called "The Debrief" with four friends from different parts of my life. We don't just share the highlight reel stuff."
"Ever notice how some friendships feel like they're written in permanent ink while others fade like pencil marks? Last month, I was scrolling through photos from a friend's wedding ten years ago. Out of the twelve people in our group shot, I'm only still close with three of them. The rest? We drifted apart so gradually I barely noticed it happening."
Friendships often drift apart gradually, leaving only a few close connections from formerly tight groups. Losing a college best friend revealed that friendships require active maintenance, not just shared history. Lasting friendships are characterized by presence during mundane, everyday moments rather than only during social highlights. Reliable friends respond to small crises, remember routine details, and participate in ordinary decisions. A group chat called "The Debrief" exemplifies sustained connection through everyday exchanges and mutual help, such as spending time choosing a blazer. A University of Kansas study found that roughly 200 hours together helps develop a close friendship.
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