I used to think I had commitment issues and then I noticed the pattern wasn't about commitment at all. It was about the specific moment someone started treating me like I was guaranteed, and I realized the thing I was afraid of wasn't staying. It was being taken for granted by someone I couldn't leave - Silicon Canals

"The moment someone shifted from choosing me to expecting me, I wanted out. Not because I didn't love them. Because I could feel the quiet transition from partner to appliance."

"Commitment-phobia is the story we reach for because it's available. It has a name, a pop-psychology shape, a tidy explanation."

The realization of being perceived as a known entity can lead to feelings of being taken for granted. Commitment issues may actually stem from the fear of transitioning from being actively chosen to being assumed. This shift can create a desire to leave, not due to a lack of love, but from the fear of becoming an unappreciated fixture in someone's life. Misdiagnosing this fear as commitment-phobia overlooks the deeper issue of feeling undervalued in relationships.

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