"Overly agreeable people typically experience significant negative feelings that they work hard to conceal. They are skilled at creating the feeling of closeness without actually letting people in."
"The specific, sustained effort of being the version of yourself that everyone finds so easy to be around takes a lot of energy. Though you genuinely care about people, you spend energy and time preparing for conversations and events."
"Overcontrolled individuals are exceptionally self-disciplined. They manage emotions almost too well—suppressing, inhibiting, and carefully regulating their emotional expression to a degree that comes at a high cost personally and in their relationships."
Overly agreeable individuals belong to the overcontrol pattern identified by RO DBT. They often hide their negative feelings and create an illusion of intimacy without genuine connection. These individuals are skilled at making others feel comfortable and are perceived as pleasant, but they experience exhaustion from the effort required to maintain this facade. They are hyperaware of others' disapproval and invest significant energy in preparing for social interactions. This pattern contrasts with undercontrolled individuals, who struggle with emotional regulation and impulsivity.
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