Psychology says the loneliest form of resilience isn't surviving hardship - it's being so good at handling everything alone that people stop checking if you need support and eventually you stop believing you deserve it - Silicon Canals

"There's a version of resilience that looks like strength from the outside and feels like disappearing from the inside. It develops gradually, usually starting in circumstances where needing things was costly in some way."

"You become the person others look to in a crisis. And the people around you, watching this, update their model of you. They stop checking whether you need support, because you never seem to."

"In a large study of 5,203 young people, researchers examining the relationship between self-reliance and help-seeking found something striking: higher self-reliance was associated with lower perceived social support."

Resilience can manifest as a strong exterior while concealing internal struggles. It often develops from experiences where expressing needs was met with dismissal or overwhelm. Individuals become adept at managing difficulties alone, leading others to perceive them as self-sufficient. Over time, this self-reliance diminishes the belief in deserving support. Research indicates a correlation between high self-reliance and lower perceived social support, resulting in reduced intentions to seek help, highlighting a cycle of isolation despite the presence of potential support.

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