Psychology says people who become harder to be around as they get older aren't becoming more miserable - they're becoming less willing to absorb other people's discomfort at the expense of their own - Silicon Canals

"Socioemotional selectivity theory suggests that as people age, they perceive their remaining time as limited, leading to a shift in priorities from novelty to emotional meaning."

"Carstensen's research indicates that older adults actively prune their social networks, choosing to maintain relationships that are emotionally meaningful while letting go of those that are not."

"The shrinking social circles of older adults are not signs of decline or disconnection; rather, they reflect a deliberate choice to focus on emotionally fulfilling connections."

As people age, they perceive their time as limited, shifting their goals from novelty to emotional meaning. This leads to smaller social circles and less tolerance for draining relationships. Research by Laura Carstensen shows that older adults actively prune their social networks, retaining only those relationships that provide emotional fulfillment. This behavior is often misinterpreted as loneliness or crankiness, but it reflects a clearer understanding of where to invest their energy and emotional resources.

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