A parent inquired about continuing a nanny's contract versus accepting help from their own parents for childcare. The spouse is skeptical about the parents' intentions, fearing they feel obligated to help rather than genuinely wanting to do so. The parent seeks advice on addressing these concerns through structured conversation, emphasizing the importance of exploring the spouse's feelings and the context surrounding the decision to hire a nanny, as well as the parents' previous involvement. Questions for dialogue include understanding perceptions of obligation and prior caregiving decisions.
What makes you think this offer is insincere, made under pressure, or otherwise cannot be taken at face value? If your spouse falls back on, "It's just a feeling I have," dig deeper.
Is it because your parents didn't make the offer sooner? Whose decision was it, I'm wondering, to hire a nanny after your second child was born rather than having your parents, who had been watching Baby #1, care for both of them?
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