"Which, if you ask me (and you did ask me, right?), is awful of him. Possibly unforgivable. This is your child. At 23, he's still in the process of becoming who he's going to be. Wanting to move back home so that he can finish school doesn't seem to me "entitled" or immature, so unless there's a lot of untold backstory here that supports your husband's convictions ... well, those convictions just seem unfeeling and selfish to me."
"This is your child. At 23, he's still in the process of becoming who he's going to be. Wanting to move back home so that he can finish school doesn't seem to me "entitled" or immature, so unless there's a lot of untold backstory here that supports your husband's convictions ... well, those convictions just seem unfeeling and selfish to me."
One spouse is demanding that the other choose between their marriage and a 23-year-old son's return home. The son lived at home intermittently, took local college classes, and now wants to move back to finish school. Threatening to leave the household if the son returns forces an unfair choice and displays unwillingness to support the son’s transition to adulthood. A reasonable approach is to set clear structures: expectations for contributions, household chores, and a timeline or plan for completing school and moving on after graduation. Outright forbidding the son’s return lacks compassion and may be unnecessary.
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