A couple with a 3-year-old relies on the wife's parents for babysitting; the husband's parents died before the child was born. The husband refuses to ask the wife's parents if they can babysit, insisting that texting the wife's mother is her responsibility. The wife questions whether she must always reach out or whether the husband should sometimes ask when he wants to go out. Texting relatives can feel easy for one spouse but asking favors can be difficult for another. Comfort with being the primary communicator differs. If planning overwhelms one partner, couples can split tasks as a practical compromise, for example one asks parents while the other packs the child's backpack.
I know texting your parents feels as though it should be no big deal for your husband, but asking others for favors is a hard thing to do. A lot of us struggle with this! It's easier for you to ask your parents because they're your parents. Is being the primary communicator what's bothering you, or is it more about the principle of wanting him to feel comfortable asking?
My husband and I are currently at an impasse because he refuses to be the one who asks them if they're free to babysit. A recent example: He wanted to go see a movie. I said, "Sounds great! Text my mom to see when she can watch the kid." He never did. When I asked when we were going, he told me he never reached out, that it was my job to text her because she's my mom.
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