"I'm 19 and in university. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, "Jason." He'd been acting weird for a few weeks, but when I ended things, he completely flipped out. It escalated to the point where he slipped into my family's home, stole our cat, "Flibble," and tried to hold him for ransom. We did get Flibble back, and Jason is now facing charges. I just want to put this all behind me."
"My parents, however, are furious. They keep telling me I should "have better judgment" and promise I'm going to get an earful this Thanksgiving about "choosing appropriate partners." I get it, this got bad. But Jason wasn't showing signs of being unhinged when we first started dating, and I did break up with him as soon as he started acting erratically."
"I'm sorry that your parents aren't able to freak out about this (warranted!) while also showing you the empathy you deserve. I can't speak to what Jason did beforehand, but the act of sneaking into your family's home and stealing your cat was abusive, full stop. And while it certainly impacted-and targeted-your parents, you are the one who has to come to terms with being treated this way by someone you once trusted and cared for."
A 19-year-old university student ended a relationship after a boyfriend began acting erratically. The ex broke into the family home, stole the family's cat Flibble, and attempted a ransom scheme; charges followed and the pet was recovered. The student's parents are furious and repeatedly lecture her about judgment and partner choice, calling multiple times per week. The student wants to avoid cutting them off but also wants the lectures to stop. The columnist affirms that the cat theft was abusive and emphasizes that the student deserves empathy even as the parents were directly impacted.
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