"Though your mother is gone, you can still seek closure with her. Write her a letter expressing the array of emotions that you feel about her. Recall your early experiences, like when she left you in your home country and how that made you guarded when she did send for you. Recount what your life was like growing up and how you felt about her. Apologize for not being closer to her."
"You may even want to give your blessing for her relationship with your brother's girlfriend. While it would have been nice for you to be close to her, it's good that she had a daughter figure in her life. Forgive yourself and her for all the pain that existed between you. You can pray over the note, burn it as a sign of release and do your best to move on, remembering the good that you experienced with your mom."
A woman describes estrangement from her mother who emigrated, later sent for her, and died recently. The estrangement left the woman guarded and hurt by learning her mother expressed a wish for her son’s girlfriend to be a daughter figure. Suggested closure steps include expressing complex emotions to the mother, recalling early experiences and the impact of parental absence, apologizing for distance, and offering a blessing for the mother's relationship. Forgiveness of both the mother and herself is encouraged. A ritual such as praying over the message and burning it is proposed to symbolize release and aid moving forward while holding positive memories.
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