The article discusses a young woman's struggle with her emotionally dependent mother, who often confides her problems, placing an exhausting burden on her daughter. Despite feeling wise and thoughtful, the daughter grapples with a one-sided relationship where she feels her insights are unappreciated. Dear Abby suggests that the daughter begin by helping herself by planning for college and setting boundaries. She should gently encourage her mother to seek professional help rather than relying on her for emotional support, ultimately aiming for the mother's betterment.
"The best chance you have of helping your emotionally dependent mother would be to start by helping yourself. Begin making plans about where you will go to college, creating plenty of physical space between you and Mom."
"The next time she starts confiding (which, from what you have written, seems more like gossiping), tell her you don't have time to listen and that she should discuss it with a contemporary who has more life experience than you... Keep repeating to your mother that her problems are more than you can handle."
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