The article discusses the current social climate concerning masculinity and toxic behaviors among men, particularly in relation to women's experiences. It highlights how some men in power perpetuate harmful stereotypes while recognizing men who challenge and call out such behavior. The article shares perspectives from anonymous contributors on red flags they've noticed in other men, emphasizing insights on emotional unavailability, narcissism, and the dangers of excusing bad behavior in the name of war experiences. The goal is to cultivate awareness and accountability among men to create a more supportive atmosphere for all.
"I'm a veteran. I don't need to make a big deal about what I did or didn't do; I don't need guns or big trucks with my enlisted record brief (ERB) on them to define me. These things reek of narcissism. 'Alpha male' is a myth, and the ones who yell the loudest are usually either completely lying or grossly compensating. Just be cool, man."
"Any ex-military guy who blames acting like a drunk idiot on PTSD. As a war vet, it drives me insane. If it happens here and there, I understand. When it happens every time they drink, I hate to break it to you, but it isn't PTSD."
"Guys that are emotionally unavailable with their girlfriends or partners. You're not 'a man' because you never address or open up about your feelings. I see time and time again men unwilling to address their emotions, or even traumas, writing off help or therapy as 'weak.' Thus, they inflict more harm on themselves and their relationships. It's not cool, and it's not your girlfriend's job to fix you. My advice is to get help and thank yourself later."
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