Harriette Cole: He called me privileged, and it really struck a nerve

"...his tone disturbed you; rather than being supportive, he seemed to be judgmental. Tell him that it hurt your feelings."

"Describe your upbringing and how you got to where you are today. Point out that while nothing has come easy for you, you are enormously grateful for all that you have accomplished so far."

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